Our family is deeply saddened this week by the suicide of one of Jake's team mates from last year. This tragedy was made even worse by the fact he was found by one of their other friends.
Those of you with teenagers in your lives, please make sure they know how much you care about them. Not just that you love and support them, but that they have somewhere to turn when they need help. I really believe we need to discuss this specific issue with them, not just make vague mutterings about handling problems.
Sorry to post about something so unhappy, but we need to take action to help each other.
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So sorry to hear about this, it really is heartbreaking to think that he thought there was no other way out but to end things.
Sending prayers and strength to you, Jake and all his teammates at this sad time.
On a side-note, I'm really enjoying your photo essays - well done on all the walking.
Sorry to hear this Sue. I hope Jake and his team mates can rally together and try and make some sense of it.
Oh Sue. I am so sorry for this loss - for you and for Jake.
I am glad you posted this - as sad as it is - because we do need to talk about it. I'll pass on the story to my friends at work who have teenage boys and are constantly moaning about them. Maybe it will help them to get a different perspective and talk to them a bit more.
*hugs*
I hope Jake is OK, this can be so shocking and traumatic to friends and family.
I also lost a sister to suicide and I don't think you every recover from it......you just learn to except it.
I found the only positive to come out of it is that young ones (family and friends) actually talked about it and what options there would have been for that person. Talking about it is very important.
Sue. Very sorry to hear that another young person has died in this very tragic way. Just last weekend, I visted a friends grave on the 2 year anniversary of his suicide. He was 20. It is definately something that we need to address especially with young males. There is such a stigma attached to men and boys showing their feelings that they feel there is no where else to turn. My thoughts are with you and Jake and the family and friends affected.
Big hugs to you and Jake, it's such a sad thing to happen. We really need to make everyone more aware.
Bri
I am so sorry to hear about your sons friend. Anyone who has lost someone this way knows how devastating it is.
My thoughts are with Jake, his mates and the young boys family (and all your families too) at this tragic time.
*hugs*
Kia Kaha Sue.
oh dear... i'm so sorry.
what you say is SO important. it's such a vulnerable time for a kid, and just to know someone cares or is there to listen is so vital.
Ugh, that's just so sad and awful. I'm sure it must be affecting everyone who knew him, but I can't imagine how his poor family feels. Too sad. :-(
Hear, hear. As a mum who twelve months ago was dealing with a suicidal teenager (pleased to say he was unsucessful but not for want of trying) we need to always let our kids know we're there for them no matter what and if they can't talk to us then talk someone.
Suicide is the final conclusion to a temporary problem.
check out: yellowribbon.org.au
It's not in NZ but it should be.
Take care,and make sure those kids open up and talk about their grief.
As mothers of teenagers its scary stuff, Sue. Hang in there, hold your boy and let them know they aren't alone.
Hugs to you.
This is the second teenage suicide I have read of in my internet family today. So very sad.
Oh, I am so sorry to hear about Jake's friend. I agree with you whole heartedly about talking to them. We've had 2 suicedes at the High School where I work this year - and it is just devastating! No child should ever feel that their problems are SO big that no one would help. They all need to have someone - and if it isn't mom or dad, then a friends mom or dad, a teacher, counselor, priest, SOMEBODY! I do talk to my own children about this ... I sure HOPE they know! I know 3 of them have asked to see psychogists at one time or another -- and you bet! If they want it, I'm right on top of that too!
I hope Jake is feeling the support he needs to deal with this... my thoughts are with you.
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